Work place, women and productivity

I am generalizing and discriminating when I say that in a meeting women take notes and men don’t.

There are always exceptions to this and there are men who are avid list makers and great Product, Program and Project Managers. I have huge respect for them since they make lives of the contributors so much easier. But my experience in many years in work force, consulting and otherwise has made me realize that when it comes to creating meeting agenda, taking notes, sharing next steps and action items, it is usually done with the women in the team irrespective of the role. If she is not doing it, it is only because she knows that there is another person in the room who is taking care of it.

This is especially challenging when the teams are small and there isn’t a luxury of having a project manager, program manager or a secretary on the project. My assumption is that the task of setting up the agenda, expectations, documenting the minutes and action items falls upon the Product/Project Manager or Owner. The excuses range from:

  • I have it all in my head and you can reach out to me anytime if you have a question.
  • I can’t be doing all these, I have better things to do by owning this vision.
  • I don’t believe in making lists and wasting paper.
  • I’d rather be checking my emails while you all discuss the details of my product/project.
  • I am not good with words.
  • I can’t write.

What they don’t really say out loud is “It is a girl thing” because we still have not evolved to think that I can do everything a girl can even if that means more streamlined meetings that are effective and saves everyone time.

My tip to you visionaries – make a list, it will free your mind to do greater and better things. And if you make your list to run effective meetings, you will have a team to collaborate and follow on your vision.

In response to Rape

This blog post by Shuddhabrata Sengupta addresses the attitudes that allow rape to happen. Very thoughtfully written article that is a must read for all. It provokes one to think about the institution of marriage, the religious teachings, the culture that protects the ones that are powerful. Rape as a key to patriarchy.

Is capital punishment the answer? I agree with Sengupta that it is not, it makes it easy and will not correct the heavily ingrained notion of “if you are weak, I will exert my power and will to put you in place.”

To the Young Women and Men of Delhi: Thinking about Rape from India Gate.

Note: Not all of his opinions may be digestible by all but don’t let it stop you from asking yourself about your values and contribution to stop this issue.

Quoting him directly for things you can do to stop rape:

  • Shame any man who casually passes misogynist, sexist, remarks.  Shame all those cowards who try to humiliate anyone because of the way their bodies or desires are. Shame them in public.
  • Young women, do not retreat from public space. Take back the night. Insist on being out and about. Insist on the conditions that enable your safety. Ask why there are no women bus drivers, women cab drivers. Ask what the Delhi police is doing to punish misogynist officers and constables.
  • Young women, please understand that when you hear songs that are violent and misogynist, you can choose to boycott the radio stations and recording companies that put them out. Leave a party or a celebration that plays a Honey Singh song. If you are young man who is a friend of a young woman at any such gathering, leave the celebration with your friend. Call the radio stations, phone in and demand that they stop playing misogynist songs.
  • Demand more public transport. Demand a thousand more buses that ply all night. Demand a metro system that stays open late into the night. Demand street lighting. Ask why the car lobby in Delhi can systematically stymie the expansion of public transport in Delhi. If there are not more public buses and metro trains, understand that those who run this city are responsible for rape and assault.
  • Take your traditions seriously, and recognize that every religion teaches the subjugation and humiliation of women. Ask men and women of religion what they are going to do to recognize the misogyny in their traditions, to confront and challenge them. Insist that under no conditions can any woman pollute anything around her. insist that women are not property. Not of their fathers, brothers, boy-friends or husbands. Not of the state. Not of God. Understand that people can never be property and must never be viewed as such.Combat and confront anyone who says they can be. (my appeal: question your faith and set your own traditions when the ones taught to you do not match up to your belief.)
  • Shame and expose those politicians and police or army officers who try to cover up cases of sexual assault and rape in Kashmir and the North East and elsewhere. Do not create a hierarchy of more and less important victims.

  • Young men, decide now, and for all time, that you will treat the women you encounter first of all as friends, as equals, as people who have as much right to your city as you. Learn to respect a woman’s right to pleasure. To her right to say yes and no. Do not think that ‘no’ means ‘yes’.
  • Young men, if you confront a situation in which any man harasses another woman, or any other person, make sure that you will stand up and protest, call attention to what is going on,  and make sure that this stops.

  • Young men, and young women, do not reduce the matter of confronting rape and molestation to one of asking the attacker whether or not he has ‘sisters and daughters’ at home. Rapists prey on their sisters and daughters just as easily as they do on strangers.
  • Young men and young women, do not ever let anyone tell you that under any circumstances, that your life is not worth living.

 

Kicking off with passion

Feet Up

Image credit goes to Julia Bohemian

Thanks to Jennifer Barbour’s SkillShare class on “How to Write Blog Posts That Build a Community“, here I am writing my first post on Braless Studio.

Why Bra-less? 

We should be able to define the freedom and flexibility we want while we give and nurture our family and community around us. Without restrain. It also is inclusive to have supportive men participate and collaborate with us.

We are a Facebook group that currently has 39 members and we hope to continue to grow. (Be sure to send me your Facebook ID if you want to be invited to the group.)

One of the key efforts of the initiative is to explore and try out various alternative career/work opportunities for stay home mothers or individuals who need the flexible schedules to support their current life-style. Along the way we hope to get on a journey of self-discovery through sharing and opening our minds to new possibilities.

I hope to use the blog to provide weekly updates on what is happening in my life as one of the members on the Braless Group and hope to hear more personal stories and comments from our readers too.